What I love and hate about blogging

Blogging…what does it mean? These days it has such a wide definition that practically anything is blogging, is Instagram blogging? Is Tweeting regularly a form of blog? All of these channels provide an interested audience with a web based log of our lives meaning that basically anyone is a ‘blogger’ these days. I prefer to think of the general term as one who actually runs their own site such as this one and regularly adds content. A log of my life, however, this is not (that’s what vlogging is for!). That leaves me with the question, is that something you want more of on here?

This blog always has been a fashion focussed blog and I really enjoy putting the odd beauty and fitness post on here too and that really is what I love about it – this is MY space to do what I WANT. Haters gonna hate, as they say, but don’t let anyone tell you what you should or should not be doing with your blog. There is a lot of criticism out there sometimes of larger Youtubers and bloggers who now adhere to only ‘luxury’ items and forget their high street past, now, I have no problem with this, it is their choice to do so and ultimately you can just switch off if it’s not to your taste – there are a lot of us out there to choose from – so why give the hate? I get it though. I sometimes feel the same way, a little disappointed that my favourite blogger I followed for years no longer puts out the content I like but it is my choice to move on and I wouldn’t dream of ever giving them negativity because when you run a business you make choices about your target audience and sometimes that changes.

I see a lot of talk about putting out someone’s candle not making yours brighter and other such sayings but is this attitude finally changing? I am yet to see it and whilst Youtube and Twitter allow trolls and hateful comments to continue, it’s just not going to.

This is becoming slightly negative isn’t it? I didn’t mean it to be. I guess today I have been reflecting a bit; I’ve been stressing slightly on unfollows on Instagram and getting sponsored content ‘just’ right on top of my 9-5 and yeah, it gets me down at times. So I took a bath, caught up on some work and sat down to right this post. Who cares if I still need to hoover?

The point where blogging becomes stressful and it’s not your full time job is the time when you need to make a choice about whether to continue, cut back or stop altogether. For me the choice has always been cut back (which is sometimes why you don’t see much content on here from time to time) but if it becomes a constant stress in your life then you should evaluate this choice. At the end of the day just don’t beat yourself up for missing a week and also don’t EVER forget that comparison is the thief of joy.

It’s an irony really isn’t it? That our generation scour blogs and Instagram for fashion inspiration and to make ourselves feel better by wearing fashionable clothes and using luxurious beauty products, but what really happens is that we start to compare ourselves to the people we’re admiring – why do they have more followers, why are they so much thinner, gosh their hair is so thick and beautiful. This is something I worry about my future children encountering and how do we get the balance right? I’m going to put it out there – celebrating obesity is not the answer either, it needs to be the right message that says ‘celebrate all body types but be healthy.’ The same goes the other way, we should not be using models with eating disorders on our catwalks but also remember that some people struggle to gain weight. It’s a difficult line to walk and we’re not going to find the answer any time soon.

Anyway, this is a bit of a jumble of thoughts I’m afraid, I was in that kind of mood and it’s just what I wanted to write. I hope it all makes sense. Hope you like the outfit too!




    • Arabella Wright
      January 22, 2018 / 10:03 pm

      Thanks so much! x

  1. Simplement Lui
    January 22, 2018 / 7:35 am

    I like the outfit too yes ;)Now about your post … when blogging is not a pleasure anymore I think it's better to stop (of course if it's not your full time job) … Internet can be fabulous but please never forget that it's a virtual world (yes including real people) but REAL LIFE is not Internet …https://4highheelsfans.wordpress.com/2018/01/19/king-of-the-heels/

    • Arabella Wright
      January 22, 2018 / 10:04 pm

      You're so right, sometimes we get a bit immersed with the internet x

  2. NotJessFashion
    January 22, 2018 / 8:24 am

    Babe, you look like a true stunner! Love the top, boots, and the jacket!Jessica | notjessfashion.com

    • Arabella Wright
      January 22, 2018 / 10:04 pm

      Thanks so much x

  3. Jenelle Witty
    January 22, 2018 / 8:48 am

    First of all, I love this jacket and outfit! So good! Hmm, yeah, I get burnt out with blogging at times. It seems it has gone from being a term I use to describe myself as with a cringe to something of a little more pride. At least, I like to say that I am not just an Instagram-blogger. I definitely find myself making that distinction with a lot of emphasis. Comparison is definitely a slippery slope and one that I see so many people, myself including fall into. At those times, I have to step back, take time offline and just do something non related or hang out with people who don't have Instagram. xx Jenelle http://www.inspiringwit.com

    • Arabella Wright
      January 22, 2018 / 10:08 pm

      Absolutely! Instagram is the worst platform for comparison! x

  4. Onyinyechi Nwanna Iwuoha
    January 22, 2018 / 9:36 am

    Love your outfit!I totally agree. Blogging becomes a chore after a while. When I feel the pressure is becoming too much, I take a break, and it works.www.onyixtus.com

    • Arabella Wright
      January 22, 2018 / 10:09 pm

      It definitely does work and is the healthier thing to do x

  5. Isabella Zogheib
    January 22, 2018 / 1:45 pm

    Great post! xxwww.isabellazogheib.com

    • Arabella Wright
      January 22, 2018 / 10:09 pm

      Thanks Isabella x

  6. Milex xxx
    January 22, 2018 / 7:00 pm

  7. Rosa Fairfield
    January 22, 2018 / 10:52 pm

    What a great post. I think it’s so important with blogging to do it only when you love it and to take a break when it gets stressful.http://ohduckydarling.com

    • Arabella Wright
      January 23, 2018 / 7:36 am

      Thanks Rosa, absolutely! You wouldn't want to take the joy out of it x

  8. LisaVM
    February 5, 2018 / 2:54 am

    I can't even begin to tell you how much I agree with this post! Especially the parts about Instagramer's being bloggers and celebrating obesity as opposed to health. I entered and fell in love with this blogging world to be creative and inspire others to do the same. It's so sad to see others make a mockery of it. Cheers to keeping our heads, standards and heels high!xo,Lisawww.prettylittleshoppers.com

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